When it comes to various other subjects such as dealing with health issues, stumbling upon business opportunities, pursuing a career or a dream, being an artist or many others, this reaction and attitude is probably the the most mind boggling and discouraging one, when the first reaction of a person is this:
“It can’t work!” or “It won’t work!”
Right. We know it since at least 10 AD, from the Roman Engineer Julius Sixtus Frontius that everything had been already invented by then: “Inventions have long since reached their limit, and I see no hope for further developments.”
He was exactly as correct as was Ken Olson, president, chairman and founder of Digital Equipment Corp. who said in 1977: “There is no reason anyone would want a computer in their home.”
As you might be reading these lines on some kind of computer device in your home, you will find more similar quotes from highly regarded experts of their fields, on this site. Truly amusing, have a laugh!
To err is human, and every now and then even the most ingenious man may be caught in uttering something silly, that can be forgiven.
However, there are people all around us who will react with an “It can’t work!” to just about anything they hear, when something new and promising is presented to them.
Your neighbor who rejects your invitation to your successful MLM business, because he knows that these pyramid schemes don’t work. Then you take your family in your Mercedes for a fun evening out in the aqua park, and he takes his bike to deliver newspapers for half of the night, as his second job.
Your daughter’s teacher who is convinced that your princess should give up dancing lessons because she is not that talented – but the girl loves dancing better than anything else and years later ends up in performing every night in a theater, making you the proudest parent ever.
Your colleague who has been suffering from hay fever for years and is not even willing to hear about the herb tea recommended by your naturopath and which has cured your even terrible sneezing attacks within a week, because she only takes doctor’s orders and nothing from quacks.
And the list goes on; you can easily think of a recent example of hearing: “It won’t work!” and there are a great number of websites, online forums and groups with the sole intention of debunking new inventions, methods, systems and products – things that are not considered to be mainstream, nevertheless are already benefiting larger and larger groups of people.
These often anonymous and faceless armchair critics who have not amounted to anything much in the field (some of them might have appropriate education, though), don’t even make an effort to see it for themselves, to test what they are about to bash, their modus operandi is Just Trash It! Very sadly, this is many times done in the name of Science, claiming that what the armchair critic is chewing to pieces is “not scientific enough”, regardless of the facts that show how well it is actually working for others.
Skepticism is way to common in everyday conversations; the very recent story that gave me the apropos to write this rant is that somebody shared an article in a Facebook group, about a young scientist figuring out something to help her wife with lymphedema and within only 7 weeks or so, they achieved spectacular improvement with the woman’s affected legs. If you are interested in an early stage of experiment to heal lymphedema with red light, you can read it here.
There was a lady making almost 10 comments on the article, along the line of “This is BS”, “garbage”, “very dangerous”, “crazy, “It can’t work, because…”, etc, etc. Goes without saying that she wouldn’t give a real explanation, only was twisting lines and facts. She herself has been a lymphedema patient for decades. One would think that in such a case, she would try ANYTHING to finally get rid of her condition. But no. No trying something new that looks very promising, rather immediately trashing it.
One of the worst attitudes we can encounter when talking with people about the most different subjects, is skepticism. True: there is a healthy way of skepticism, one doesn’t need to believe that the Moon is made of cheese, just because one is told so.
Once I had a close friend, a very clever man with an IQ above 140, a computer consultant who also had excellent organizational skills and was great at physical activities, too. From such a man of caliber, one would accept that he wouldn’t be lured into an insurance Ponzi scheme where he was paying $$$ for years to a bank account of a person who was an internationally known scammer, or wouldn’t pay the full price in cash in advance for an expensive tv set from a private person he didn’t know, without any contract or receipt or anything written at all, only with the verbal promise of postal delivery in a few weeks, or wouldn’t buy a ring in the street from a Gypsy who said it was pure gold…
Due diligence is very important, yes, especially when you hear about something new.
Of course, not everybody has to be a guinea pig for everything new that they hear, and often it is much better to research the available data a little bit further, before jumping into a new venture, but in many cases, the best is to try it for yourself. Then you will know for sure, whether or not something works for you.
Bandi the donkey
Based on experiences with skeptical individuals, let’s play a little bit with the definition of
a person who questions or doubts something (such as a claim or statement) : a person who often questions or doubts things (Merriam-Webster)
Extended definition: a person who doesn’t dare trying something for himself that you have good experiences with, but keeps telling you that “It can’t work” or “It won’t work” (Andrea Gerak)
The sad thing is that the “ordinary skeptics” (those who will tell you with their best intention to help you that “You should find a job instead” and such) are people who have given up on their own dreams, and therefore they are convinced that goals, purposes, dreams are not something that can be achieved, therefore they would like to save you from the disappointment. They really mean well for you but are using a wrong tool. They have a huge shortage in the motivation department.
How to deal with a skeptic person?
If you care, you can ask them to show you something better they would recommend and what results they have achieved with that so far. Most often they will stop yap-yap-yap immediately.
You can also just say: “Thank you for your opinion”, then change the subject to something more neutral, like a recent movie.
And later, if you want, you can send them a post card from the beach – well, as kind of a revenge, if that’s your style, but more importantly: maybe you will even help them by sending some good vibes and inspiration!
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